It’s time for me to up and Adam out of the states. I have been living in NYC for the past four years but now I’m leaving and going forth somewhere new. I was debating whether I should even write this post but figured it deserved a few minutes of attention. I’ve included some of my favourite photos and memories, and wanted to add my two cents/mumbling crap.
If you ever get the chance to live abroad – do it! Grab that opportunity with two hands and run with it. I have now lived on three continents (soon to be four sneak peak) and can’t speak highly enough of getting a new perspective. Opportunities only come so often and I have changed as a person from each culture I’ve immersed myself in. This might cause a potential uproar but I consider myself a New Yorker. I think once you’ve fought through the tuna-can morning subway commute and run down to get dollar pizza at three in the morning, you’re converted. NYC isn’t a stereotypical ‘America city’, instead it’s a melting pot of people. It’s full of dreamers, people who want to succeed, people who are succeeding, hermits, lovers and kooks. From that it becomes hectic, full of failure, mad and so fast-paced you can’t think straight. Besides all that there’s magic here and that’s why people all over the world yearn for a bite of the apple.
Four things I’ve learnt whilst living in the city that never sleeps. First is aggressiveness without bossiness. Millions live here and to get noticed or something done you need to be assertive. There’s a saying that New Yorkers are angry but really they just want to get things done. It’s a city full of opportunities and memories to be made, we don’t want to waste our time waiting for the light to change or for you to tie your shoelace and take up the whole pavement. I have hit several taxis trying to turn when it has been my right of way and each time it felt amazing to let out the aggression haha. Second would be preparation. You never know what’s around the corner from hurricanes to blizzards to blackouts. Fortunately the city has everything, it’s like Amazon as a location. I thought I was a planner before but now I plan my planner. Contrasting to that spontaneity is really important. You might get a last minute invite to an art opening or the chance to grab some new hybrid dessert up in the Bronx. Now I don’t overthink things as much as I did in my youth, now I just go for it and see what happens. I might have an awesome time, I might have a horrible time but it’s better to try and fail at the top then just roll around the bottom. Third is to take time for you. The city does in fact sleep and it sleeps beautifully. If you’re ever awake in the early hours go to Times Square and it’ll feel like an apocalypse just happened. There’s something magical about being surrounded by all the lights and hums with no other humans around. It’s the perfect time to reflect and not be distracted by people stepping on your feet and tourists asking you for directions. Sure you get the occasional siren but that’s just like your partner heavy breathing for a few minutes before rolling over. Lastly is the diversity of people you’ll encounter and how important that is. I’ve had people talk to me out of the blue on the subway, buy me coffee and even spit on me. You might meet someone from South Africa and the next day New Jersey. I think it’s the community that makes NYC unique. As you are dealing with all kinds of backgrounds, statuses and personalities, you learn to adapt and start to figure yourself out. You’re not stuck in your hometown pretending to be what your family and friends want you to be, you’re able to experiment and figure things out. I’ve done things I’m super proud of and a few things I regret but still acknowledge haha. Go live in New York for a while and say Adam sent you, no-one will care but I promise it’ll be awesome!
Thanks for the friends, cries, laughs and weird diseases. Sleep tight NYC!